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Author: Nix Kelley

Co-parent to multiple kids. Writer. Death doula. Member of the Order of the Good Death. Seeker on the Path of Light. Queer, non-binary, & trans.
a naked woman, Truth, emerging from a well. famous painting reproduced faithfully as a photorealistic image.
on Deathwork & Griefwork/on Harm & Reciprocity/on Rage

this is not an obituary

Posted on 3 May 2022

Time is not really a flat circle; it does turn back on itself in an endless loop, but perhaps if we are lucky the loop is a spiral and we are getting somewhere ...

a child looks through a small hole from within a cardboard box. light comes through the hole in the box.
on Deathwork & Griefwork/on Hope

death & hope

Posted on 21 March 2022

We cannot understand death without also holding the feeling of hope, even if it is buried so deeply that we cannot find it within ourselves.

a black and white photo of a street with people in robes and a car in front of a cluster of buildings. the focal point is a monk who is actively on fire. this is the famous photo of Quảng Đức during his self-immolation
on Deathwork & Griefwork/on Harm & Reciprocity/on Praxis/on Rage

my heart burned open wide

Posted on 24 February 2022

I think that when we look for as long as we can — and look away if we have the privilege to be able to look away — it helps remind us that while the world is bi...

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Nix Kelley

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CURRENTLY READING:

I am on StoryGraph tracking my reading and the reading challenges I've joined. You can go to my StoryGraph profile if you want to see what kind of reading I'm doing right now.

CURRENTLY WATCHING:

I am using MyDramaList now! Here's my MDL profile and my MDL watchlists. I recommend looking at my 2025 watchlist to see what I've watched already and what's on my massive personal wishlist for the year.


HOUSE WAYRETH:

I live in a chosen family that we collectively call House Wayreth. We have a Substack, an Instagram account that I have temporarily forgot how to log into, and a Facebook page.

You can read stuff that some of us write: Ash's writing is temporarily on hiatus for public consumption, but they are on Bluesky. Rob posts semi-regularly on faer website. StarChild posts semi-regularly on their website. And I post here and am occasionally on Threads.

It is our suffering that brings us together. It is not love. Love does not obey the mind, and turns to hate when forced. The bond that binds us is beyond choice. We are brothers. We are brothers in what we share. In pain, which each of us must suffer alone, in hunger, in poverty, in hope, we know our brotherhood. We know it, because we have had to learn it. We know that there is no help for us but from one another, that no hand will save us if we do not reach out our hand. And the hand that you reach out is empty, as mine is. You have nothing. You possess nothing. You own nothing. You are free. All you have is what you are, and what you give.

-- excerpt from The Dispossessed: an Ambiguous Utopia by Ursula K. LeGuin

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