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Author: Nix Kelley

Co-parent to multiple kids. Writer. Death doula. Member of the Order of the Good Death. Seeker on the Path of Light. Queer, non-binary, & trans.
a person with two arms raised in a crowd, making a heart shape with both hands
on Praxis

I don’t want to be a big deal on the internet

Posted on 15 November 2022

I want to be able to stand before my gods before I pass into the sunlit lands and not be ashamed of who I was. I want to leave the place better than I found it.

written in white chalk on pavement are the words 'TOGETHER WE WILL CHANGE THE WORLD'
on Harm & Reciprocity/on Praxis

the math of harm

Posted on 10 November 2022

Doing the math of harm doesn’t mean that I get to disconnect myself from my choice once I’ve made it.

a person with aluminum foil obscuring their face, with hands on both sides of their face, in multicolored light
on Chosen Family

chaotic weirdo

Posted on 8 November 2022

If you’re wondering if I have some sort of requirement to inject some Tolkien into almost everything I do, maybe that’s My Brand.

on Chosen Family/on Praxis/the Cycle of the Seasons/the Work

I am home

Posted on 1 November 2022

...no matter how long the night, the day will come. The light will return. There are always things to fear; and there is always hope.

tilt-shift view of feet in sneakers, presumably belonging to people sitting atop a stone wall
on Hope/on Praxis

a fire sale, if I had things to sell

Posted on 29 October 2022

What I could do, though, was witness it. So that someone was there and you weren’t alone.

a dark path lined by trees, looking toward a break in the horizon bright with sunshine
on Deathwork & Griefwork/on Decolonizing/on Hope/the Work

decolonizing death, part one of many

Posted on 15 October 2022

I am doing my best to find the most harmonious way to hold my candle in the darkness so that you can see it and find me, bringing your own light, so that we hav...

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Nix Kelley

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CURRENTLY READING:

I am on StoryGraph tracking my reading and the reading challenges I've joined. You can go to my StoryGraph profile if you want to see what kind of reading I'm doing right now.

CURRENTLY WATCHING:

I am using MyDramaList now! Here's my MDL profile and my MDL watchlists. I recommend looking at my 2025 watchlist to see what I've watched already and what's on my massive personal wishlist for the year.

It is our suffering that brings us together. It is not love. Love does not obey the mind, and turns to hate when forced. The bond that binds us is beyond choice. We are brothers. We are brothers in what we share. In pain, which each of us must suffer alone, in hunger, in poverty, in hope, we know our brotherhood. We know it, because we have had to learn it. We know that there is no help for us but from one another, that no hand will save us if we do not reach out our hand. And the hand that you reach out is empty, as mine is. You have nothing. You possess nothing. You own nothing. You are free. All you have is what you are, and what you give.

-- excerpt from The Dispossessed: an Ambiguous Utopia by Ursula K. LeGuin

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